Hello,
I’ve read that the US was trying to coerce the Japanese into abandoning their aggressive policies, particularly in China, but FDR also wanted to get involved more in the war against Hitler too. It’s often called “the back door to war” theory: the Japanese and Germans were allies, so war with one would mean war with the other. One piece of evidence cited is the McCollum memo which lists a number of initiatives that would lead to war with Japan. Though there’s no evidence FDR read that memo specifically, but I think the US implemented all or most of those initiatives. However arrogant they were vis-a-vis the Japanese, weren’t the Americans goading the Japanese into attacking?